“They give you four dilators, with a ruler on them. “I was in bed for a month, and after that, there’s a dilation process,” Nomi said. Like any major surgery, there is a lengthy recovery period. “She asked me: What are you looking to achieve? Like, are you a lesbian, are you interested in being penetrated? Is it more important to focus on the nerve endings in your clit, or do you want a lot of depth? Or do you want both? I was like, ‘I want it all. “The conversation with my doctor beforehand was hilarious, because it’s sort of customized,” Nomi said. Nomi had SRS five years ago, in her mid-20s.
“But I’d like to be someone who can open up this conversation.” “A lot of girls won’t even talk about it among themselves,” she said. “At times this makes it easier to communicate, but it also makes people afraid of offending someone, and prevents people from getting deeper into a conversation.” Nomi is concerned, in particular, about the lack of conversation around sex for women who have had sex reassignment surgery (SRS), and the real-life implications the operation can have on their sexual experience. “Right now there’s a lot of sensitivity around trans issues,” Nomi told me recently. Nomi is a transgender singer and host of the podcast Allegedly NYC. But according to my friend Nomi Ruiz, this has inadvertently created a taboo in the trans community: Nobody talks about sex. If we focus on transition, we don’t actually get to talk about those things.”įor the most part, people have respected that request. Our unemployment rate is twice the national average The homicide rate is highest among trans women. We experience discrimination disproportionately to the rest of the community. “The reality of trans people’s lives is that so often we are targets of violence. “The preoccupation with transition and surgery objectifies trans people,” Cox told Couric. Many will remember the moment back in January 2014 when actress Laverne Cox schooled Katie Couric, after Couric ask an invasive question about her body. A few years ago, as transgender issues leaped to the forefront of the cultural conversation, some famous and otherwise outspoken trans people were quick to steer the focus away from “the surgery.”
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